Last Saturday was a great day for me. Our church, The Falls Bethesda temple, in conjunction with The Dream Center church in Blantyre (Both churches under the Malawi Assemblies of God church) held a Young Adults Goal Getter summit. The theme of this summit was Created to Innovate.
It was a one-day event but packed with a lot of goodies. Two marvelous speakers, a panel discussion, wonderful music… it was hard not to have a good time. And not to be inspired to manifest the potential inside of us.
Different aspects of being innovative were discussed by the various speakers. One of the speakers, Pastor Frank Chirwa, handled a topic that I want to share with you today. He talked about how to come out of a quarter-life crisis.
He didn’t use the term quarter-life crisis per se, but going through the story of the prodigal son (which he used for scriptural reference) you will see that the term applies.
What is quarter-life crisis
If you are wondering what quarter-life crisis is, Bradley University puts it like this:
Quarter-life crisis is a period of uncertainty and questioning that typically occurs when people feel trapped, uninspired and disillusioned during their mid-twenties and early-thirties
In short, it is that feeling of being lost and not knowing what to do with your life. That feeling of constantly being afraid that you are going to fail in life. That feeling that your age mates are achieving big things yet you are stuck with no visible progress in your life. Typically, is it that feeling every young adult experiences at least once in their life. Which is why am sharing with you what the pastor talked about.
The prodigal son was going through a quarter-life crisis. How can I be sure? When you study the scripture, you will realize that he started pitying himself (How many of my father’s hired servants have more than enough bread, but I perish here with hunger), he started regretting the choices he’d made and feeling like he was a failure (I will go back to my father’s house), and he was feeling worthless (I am no longer worthy to be called your son. Treat me as one of your hired servants). All these are signs of quarter-life crisis.
So, basing his talk on the parable of the prodigal son, Pastor Frank shared the following strategies for overcoming crisis:
Lessons about overcoming quarter-life crisis from the parable of the prodigal son
Where are you in life?
How did you get there?
What needs to change?
These are important questions that you must ask yourself if you are to overcome your crisis. Answering these questions will help you uncover the root cause of your quarter-life crisis. It will help you understand why you are feeling stuck, worthless etc… which is key because you can’t overcome a problem you don’t understand.
The next step after locating yourself is to assess yourself.
What are your strengths?
What are your weaknesses?
What opportunities do you have?
You remember in the first step, you also thought of the changes you need to effect in your life? Doing a thorough and honest self-assessment will help you come up with an action plan. The action-plan should have clear concrete steps of the actions you need to take.
For example, the change you need could be going back to school, or starting a business or moving out of your parents’ house. In this stage, you are going to take a step further by detailing what steps you need to take in order for you to go back to school, in order for you to start that business.
So after locating yourself, assess yourself.
The last step is perhaps the most important steps of all. Action.
You could have come up with the greatest plans in the second step but if you don’t take it further and take action, nothing is going to change.
In the parable of the prodigal son, he didn’t just say to himself, ‘okay I am here eating pig’s food while my father’s servants have a lot to eat,’ and ended there.
He took the next step. He left where he was and went back home to his father’s house.
So if you want to conquer your quarter-life crisis, act!
So these are the three steps the pastor shared with us about overcoming crisis. By sharing this with you, it is my prayer that you are spurred to stop feeling sorry for yourself, that instead you will locate yourself, assess yourself and will finally take action so that you release that great potential within you.
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